Having someone break up with you is a very difficult thing to go through. After all, chances are you were happy with the other person since you didn't break up with them. And now they want to leave and take your happiness with them.
Well, here are some things that you should definitely NOT do when someone breaks up with you.
Don't whine, cling, or plead with them. Not only does it make you look pathetic, but it will drive them further away from you. Desperation is a huge turn off. People want to run away from, not be with, someone who is desperate to be with them.
Don't contact you ex constantly. Whether it's text messaging or calling, this is just another sign of desperation and will ensure that your ex wants to stay far away from you.
Don't sit around at home being sad and crying. You might feel that your happiness is gone, but you are in control of your emotions. Being happy is a choice. So choose to be happy no matter the circumstances. Not only will you feel better, but you will be more attractive to others.
Do not go out and try to make yourself feel better by finding someone else. If you haven't recovered from the first relationship you aren't going to have a very good chance of finding a successful next one. Most likely you will just get taken advantage of by someone who will know that you are feeling desperate. And you will also drive your ex further away.
Do not comfort yourself with food excessively. This is no time to gain weight. Do you really think your ex is going to want to take you back if you start looking worse.
Unfortunately, many of the things that you are not supposed to do after someone breaks up with you are the very things that you are most inclined to do. But if you can take a step back and do just the opposite, often you can get your ex back.
So the things that you should be doing when someone breaks up with you are:
Give them their space. Men especially as men often leave relationships because the are feeling claustrophobic. So give them the space the need. Let them come to terms with what life is like without you. Let them miss you. After all nothing makes the heart fonder...
Call, text, talk to other people. Now is the time to get back in touch with people you may have lost touch with or haven't had time to do things with.
Be happy and upbeat. This is you at your most attractive. And it will probably make your ex wonder why you aren't sadder that they left. They will begin to think of all the reasons why you were good together and wonder why you don't think the loss of those good things isn't worth being sad over. And as a result they will remember all the things they liked about you. A little diabolical isn't it?
Take this time apart to do something constructive for yourself, rather than try to find a new relationship before you have emotionally recovered from the last. Take a class, read a self-improvement book, join a gym. Do the things that you like to do.
Work on making yourself look better than ever. Lose some weight that may have been gathering, get your hair done, buy some new clothes. If you are looking good, you will be feeling good. And most likely attracting the attention of your ex. And they will notice the attention attention you are getting from other members of the opposite sex too. Both of these are powerful cues for them to get back together with you.
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